08 Sep Transition Time!
Transition defined: the process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another.
The back to school transition is in full gear for parents everywhere. The change can cause stress for everyone. Whether internal or external, we are all feeling the pressure to ensure everyone thrives during a hectic school year.
My experience this year has been overwhelming. I have twin girls headed to middle school and a son who began kindergarten, so I am at two ends of a spectrum.
Between the paperwork needed for school, new clothes, shoes, transportation needs, and after school activities, the pressure to get it all right continues. Even scribbling my thoughts down has caused an increase in blood pressure, but I know we will all settle in soon.
Here are a few tips I find helpful when going through transitions with children:
T is for time. Give yourself time to settle into the new schedules and time for your kids to adjust.
R is for reaching out. Reach out for HELP during this transitional period and beyond. Carpools can be a saving grace for working parents. I also find that reaching out for emotional support during times of transition is key to lowering stress.
A is for allowing mistakes. They will happen, but it’s not the end of the world as long as no one gets hurt. The hustle and bustle can cause an “oops” moment in a parent whether young or old. It is ok – it will get better.
N is for NO. It’s important to say “no” and not to over commit you or your child during this time. I have seen how many parents and kids over-commit in every aspect of their lives. Say “no” and enjoy some down time!
S is for simplifying. Creating a schedule that is as smooth and straightforward can simplify a hectic day. Simplifying could mean planning meals ahead of time and stocking up on schools supplies for those mad rushes of homework or big projects. Check out an article on simplifying here.
I is for insight. Gain insight from friends, other parents, teachers, and acquaintances. So many parents have been here before. Ask how they coped and you are sure to get some funny stories and great tips.
T is for teachers. Remember teachers are in transition mode, too. Keeping in touch with your child’s teacher positively can help you and your child adjust to the new school year. Check out other teacher-approved tips here.
I is for inform. As you learn from successes and failures in every transition, share it with others. Also, reflecting on your knowledge and experiences can make a huge difference in your everyday life. Starting a journal could help you reflect and relieve stress.
O is for optimism. “Optimism is Hope with a plan” – Emotional Intelligence Network. Stay optimistic and let your kids see that you are positive the new year will be great. Remind your children to be open-minded with change and stay OPTIMISTIC – it will be a great year.
N is for New. All this is new for everyone. For me, its middle school and parenting “tween” twin girls, which is a game changer for sure. For your children, it all may be brand new experience entering a structured school environment. Roll with it, and soon it will be your daily life.
Remember to keep it simple and, once again, BREATHE!