12 Jun His SAFE Person

by Rickey Green

I will never forget the day I reviewed my youngest child, Kendall’s, 5th-grade school project. One particular answer struck me so deeply that I had to sit down, overwhelmed by emotion. 

Today, I’m happily married to Alycia, the most amazing woman I’ve ever known. She is the epitome of a Super Mom, balancing her role as a Family Nurse Practitioner with her dedication to enriching our lives. Kaden (14), Kendall (11), and I are incredibly fortunate to share our lives with her.

I was raised as an only child by a wonderful mother who, despite her struggles with mental health, taught me valuable lessons about love and life. My parents divorced when I was 5, and my father was mostly absent, leaving me with a deep longing for his presence and affection.

By age 13, I found solace in alcohol and other substances, leading to a 5-year prison sentence by age 20. At 23, I arrived at Volunteers of America, broken and desperate for help. It was there I learned to believe in miracles and take responsibility for transforming my past traumas into sources of inspiration for others.

At 4 years sober, I became a father. The moment I saw my son, I knew my purpose was to love him and remain emotionally present.

I imagine that you’re probably still curious about that question that took my breath away. Well, when I contemplate how amazing the human God assigned me to share life with, my beautiful wife Alycia, I have to admit I sometimes feel a bit inferior. 

I sometimes question my parenting skills as a father.

“Am I enough?”

“Am I doing this right?”

I am overwhelmed with Joy and gratitude as I type this now.

Kendall’s answer was, “My Dad”

The question, “Who is your safe person?”

I have experienced so many gifts and miracles since I began my journey of recovery. None of them as profound as this one. 

Happy Father’s Day!