26 Jun Potty training – A Gold Star for You and Your Kiddo

There are many milestones when it comes to parenting. First words, crawling, first steps, and everything in between. It can be fun, a little scary, and exciting to experience your child learning something new.  Every milestone brings change—but some can feel a little more overwhelming than others. Potty Training. This can be challenging, and at times a stressful milestone for both parents and children. It can feel like an emotional roller coaster, however when emotions are high, remembering to ask for help makes a world of difference.

Parental stress is common, but noticing when you are starting to feel overwhelmed or upset can be a helpful signal that it’s time to take a break. It’s also a great opportunity to show your child healthy ways to cope with big emotions and keep things safe and steady for both of you.  If you feel that you’re having trouble navigating frustrating emotions, it’s ok to walk away, once your child is in a safe place. If you are feeling stressed, you’re not alone. Help is available, and support is just a phone call away through the Parent Stress Line.

When you are feeling calm, take a moment to reconnect and try again. Potty training is a big step – for both you and your child – and it’s okay if it doesn’t go perfectly. There are lots of helpful tools and resources to support you in navigating this messy milestone. It takes time, patience, and most importantly, waiting until your child is truly ready. Accidents are part of the process, and it’s completely normal for things to take little while.Every child develops at their own pace, so don’t worry if your child’s progress doesn’t match up with typical milestones. If you have concerns or questions, reach out to your child’s doctor for support. Check out our Ages and Stages page for resources to help support your developing child and learn what to expect as they grow.

Here are some simple tools you can use to support your emotional wellbeing and reduce stress during this phase.

.– Make a plan that works for you and your family
— Gather the tools,/incentives, resources you might need
— Try not to dwell on setbacks – they’re part of the process
— Connect with other parents for support and encouragement
— Give yourself permission to take breaks when needed
— Make time for self care
— Keep your expectations realistic – for both you and your child
— Create routines that bring structure and calm
— Pause for a few deep breaths when things feel overwhelming
— Step outside or walk around your house to reset when you need space

It’s absolutely okay to ask for help. Whether it’s reaching out to family and friends, connecting with other parents, or just talking to someone who understands, you don’t have to do this alone. Take a deep breath and give yourself some grace. You’re doing an incredible job, even on tough days.

Remember, every parent navigates potty training at some point. There may be tears and a few loud or spirited moments, but you and your kiddo will get through it together, and come out on the other side clean, dry, and ready to take on the next challenge!