1. Show and tell. Teach children right from wrong with calm words and actions. Model behaviors you would like to see in your children and teens.
2. Set limits and give consequences. Have clear and consistent rules your children and teens can follow. Be sure to explain these rules in age-appropriate terms they can understand. Calmly and firmly explain the consequences if they don’t behave. For example, tell your child that if she does not pick up her toys or if he does not close the video games, you will take them away for the rest of the day. Be prepared to follow through right away and, remember, never take away something your child truly needs, such as a meal.
3. Hear them out. Listening is important. Let your child or teen finish their story before helping solve the problem. Watch for times when misbehavior has a pattern, like if your child is feeling jealous or your teen is feeling misunderstood. Talk with your child about this rather than just giving consequences.
4. Give them your attention and catch them being good. The most powerful tool for effective discipline is attention—to reinforce good behaviors and discourage others. Remember, all children want their parent’s attention. Children need to know when they do something bad—and when they do something good. Notice good behavior and point it out, praising success and good tries. Be specific (for example, “Wow, you did a good job putting your dishes in the dishwasher!”).
5. Know when not to respond. As long as your child or teen isn’t doing something dangerous and gets plenty of attention for good behavior, ignoring bad behavior can be an effective way of stopping it. Ignoring bad behavior can also teach children natural consequences of their actions. For example, if your child keeps dropping her cookies on purpose, she will soon have no more cookies left to eat. If he throws and breaks his toy, he will not be able to play with it. It will not be long before they learn not to drop the cookies and to play carefully with toys.
6. Be prepared for trouble and redirect bad behavior. Plan ahead for situations when your child might have trouble behaving. Prepare them for upcoming activities and how you want them to behave. Sometimes children misbehave because they are bored or don’t know any better. Find something else for your child to do.
7. Call a time-out. A time-out can be especially useful when a specific rule is broken. This discipline tool works best by warning children they will get a time out if they don’t stop, reminding them what they did wrong in as few words―and with as little emotion―as possible, and removing them from the situation for a pre-set length of time (1 minute per year of age is a good rule of thumb). For your teen, you might point out that she is upset and needs some time to gather herself. Suggest 15 or 20 minutes of time to calm down so the 2 of you can resume a more constructive conversation.
8. Make chores a family activity. With more time spent at home, every family member can pitch in for household chores. A few tips: make it fun, show appreciation, and remind them that when you all work together you create more time for the things they enjoy.
9. Take a break and set up educational screen time. Try out different activities like KET’s Learn from Home, this list of virtual tours of museums, zoos, and national parks, and yoga, mindfulness, and relaxation online videos that are designed specially for kids of all ages.
10. Get outside. You and your family can enjoy the outdoors safely while practicing physical distancing. Whether you can get outside by yourself or with your kids, take a walk, play tag, take a breath, and clear your head.
Trying to work from home while keeping the kids entertained and learning, maintaining your household chores, and keeping everyone germ-free can be TOUGH! Check out these tips for Managing Work, Kids, and a Schedule at Home.
As many Kentuckians across the state are being laid off due to the COVID-19, this can be a stressful and confusing time for parents and caregivers. Remember, you can’t care for your kids, if you aren’t caring for yourself. If you are feeling overwhelmed with stress and emotions, reach out for help.
During the COVID-19 State of Emergency, individuals who do not have insurance can complete an application to request Presumptive Eligibility under the Kentucky Medicaid program. Presumptive Eligibility Medicaid is temporary and ends on 6/30/2020 unless you submit an application for regular Medicaid.
Supports from the Federal Government
Kentucky Youth Advocates is offering information on what Kentucky families can expect to receive from the federal government’s efforts to protect families, serve children, and stop the spread of COVID-19 in Kentucky and across the nation.
Discussing the Facts and Coping with the Realities
Our current situation can be hard for adults to understand and even harder for children. Your child will likely come to you with many questions and concerns about their new normal. Help ease their stress and worry by following recommendations from CDC on helping children cope during emergencies.
The CDC recommends that children, as well as adults, wear face covering when in public, which can be scary and confusing for kids. Helping them get acclimated to wearing masks and seeing their loved ones wear masks can be an important step in keeping your family safe. To normalize the experience, your family can make masks together, wear them around the house, practice putting them on dolls or stuffed animals, or draw pictures about it. Remember, children under the age of 2 should NOT wear a mask.
Dealing with Grief
Many individuals, including children, are currently dealing with the grief of losing a loved one to COVID-19. How do we stay healthy and connected while practicing safe physical distancing and dealing with the anxiety of losing a loved one added to what we were already experiencing during the pandemic? Review helpful tips for your family to cope with grief in a healthy way.
Finding New Ways to Play
Summer break may look quite different this year due to the pandemic and guidelines to remain physically distant. But, that doesn’t mean your kids have to stay indoors! Check out these remote playdate ideas, these suggestions for healthy-at-home activities, and Face It’s SPLASH body safety resource to ensure a safe and fun summer.
Look for any bruising on a baby who is not yet pulling up and taking steps; bruising to the ears, neck, torso, buttocks, or genitals of any child under four years; unexplained injuries on children of any age.
Look for an increase in nightmares and/or other sleeping difficulties, withdrawn behavior, angry outbursts, anxiety, and not wanting to be alone with a particular individual(s).
Children are afraid to tell about their abuse because they feel ashamed, don’t want the abuser to hurt them, don’t want to cause stress for their caregivers, or don’t want their abuser to go to jail.